I am a working single custodial father of a wonderful 3 yr old boy named Michael. There are no words to truly express my love for him but this blog is my attempt to document our lives in hopes that he may someday have a chance to read the joys and laughter that we shared together.Along the way, I hope that I may be able to pass on some things I've learned and observed as a single parent; things about parenting, the ups and downs of single parenthood, the emotions experienced watching Michael grow from a baby to a toddler to a boy and, some day, into a man.
Single parenting and blurring of the traditional mother/father roles
Posted 07-23-2008 at 04:52 PM by Singleparentdad
I was thinking about a blog post at lohud.com regarding the traditional views about mother/father roles in raising our kids.
I've had custody of my 3 yr old son now for almost 1 1/2 years, and during that whole time, I never really thought about whether the "roles" I've had to assume were “mother or father centric”. They were and are things that I feel or know needs to be done due to the situation life has thrust upon me and my son.
Whether it’s doing household duties, holding hands, giving him a big hug and saying “I love you” around other people, or chasing him around the house to try and make sure his hair is brushed, the thought that such things might make me appear to be “feminine” or “soft” never enters the mind.
As single parents I think we have so many things to be concerned about and deal with that allowing societal stereotypes to play any part in our lives is counter-productive and certainly not in the best interest of our kids.
Would the "traditionalists" see or perceive me with a skewed view? Perhaps. Does it make a difference in what I do for my son to make sure he is happy and well adjusted? Not in the least.
I've had custody of my 3 yr old son now for almost 1 1/2 years, and during that whole time, I never really thought about whether the "roles" I've had to assume were “mother or father centric”. They were and are things that I feel or know needs to be done due to the situation life has thrust upon me and my son.
Whether it’s doing household duties, holding hands, giving him a big hug and saying “I love you” around other people, or chasing him around the house to try and make sure his hair is brushed, the thought that such things might make me appear to be “feminine” or “soft” never enters the mind.
As single parents I think we have so many things to be concerned about and deal with that allowing societal stereotypes to play any part in our lives is counter-productive and certainly not in the best interest of our kids.
Would the "traditionalists" see or perceive me with a skewed view? Perhaps. Does it make a difference in what I do for my son to make sure he is happy and well adjusted? Not in the least.
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I think it makes you a great parent.Posted 08-08-2008 at 02:33 AM by cbdt463
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